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(Neurodiversity Week) A client once said to me, “I am exhausted — and I haven’t done anything wrong.” By most measures, her life was working. She was capable, thoughtful, and reliable. Yet internally, she felt like a disappointment to herself. Not because others had rejected her — but because the relationship she had with herself […]
“Do you have life figured out?“ A client recently asked me that during a coaching session. Not as a challenge, and not with irony — but as a genuine question. And in many ways, that’s what made it so telling. The question itself points to how deeply we’ve been taught to think of life as […]
Your Child Isn’t “Lacking Willpower”—They are Out of Capacity As parents and educators, we are conditioned to look at a child’s struggle through the lens of behaviour. When a child has a meltdown over a blue bowl, refuses to put on shoes, or “ignores” an instruction, we often ask: “Why won’t they just listen?” or […]
We’re often told that being wrong is bad. At school, mistakes get red crosses. At work, they can earn side-eye from a manager. And in life? We spend plenty of energy avoiding them altogether. But history suggests something far more interesting: many of humanity’s greatest discoveries came from people who — quite literally — got […]
This post has been months in the making — possibly years. It comes from observing trends, reading research, and truly listening to people — to what they say and what they leave unsaid. I’ve noticed a group within the neurodivergent community that tends to shun help and justify inappropriate behaviour by attributing it to their […]
We often hear the message that children and adults just need to learn more self-control. We need self-control when we are tired, stressed, overworked, frustrated, irritated, overwhelmed or basically to deny every single emotion except self-control. Whether it’s sitting still in class or a meeting, managing frustration, or “behaving better” at home — self-control is […]
(The car accident was a fender bender and nobody was injured.) Let me explain that. We are pulled in so many different directions, on so many different “offense trains” and polarized (on purpose) by so many different voices, opinions and institutions, that it is sometimes hard not to be a little bit angry all the […]
What is AI psychosis? “AI psychosis” is not a clinical or diagnostic term you’ll find in the DSM-5 or ICD-11. It’s a media and research commentary label that has emerged to describe cases where people develop delusional beliefs centred around interactions with AI chatbots such as ChatGPT, Claude, or Grok. It is when AI acts […]
“Wash your brush” you say? Is this about cleanliness? No, this isn’t a post about hygiene. Although it could be! This is about moving forward and adapting and changing when things no longer work for you. Not sure how they connect? Let me explain. When in high school I was gifted the most amazing hairbrush. […]
Recently while reading a book for pleasure (yes, I do that sometimes, not enough, but sometimes, you should try it too!), one of the characters complimented another on being prepared to name the conflict. Why? Because it equips them to attack the problem and not the person. When we “attack” the problem, not the person, […]